It’s not unusual – in fact, it is normal – for children to occasionally lie.
While some may concoct an elaborate explanation as to why they couldn’t have done something for which they are being scolded, older children may flat out lie in certain situations – for example, whether they have done their homework.
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In a new set of resources, the Child Mind Institute notes that children may lie because they want something or they want to avoid something. However, understanding motivations that are not as obvious can help caregivers to respond to lying in ways that make it less likely to reoccur.
The resources include a piece about the various reasons why children lie and what caregivers can do about it. Sorting tall tales from more serious untruths can help caregivers to decide when children should be gently redirected or face sterner consequences.
A podcast episode included in the resources provides advice on what to do when children lie and don’t show remorse when they are caught. There are also resources on helping children navigate issues that can contribute to lying – such as being too hard on themselves, lacking self-confidence, struggling to handle conflict, or feeling overwhelmed.
The Child Mind Institute’s resources include:
